This weekend I get a random text from a stray from like 3 years ago. We used to talk on the phone mostly & we dated very briefly, he just wasn't for me. He was a nice guy just no connection for me. He has had a hard life, lots of childhood trauma, so in many ways I always felt sorry for him & tried to be as nice as possible especially when I let him know for certain that I just was not interested in him romantically. Not that it matters, but for the record, we were never physically intimate.
I remember that I had communicated with this person very briefly a couple of times via text since I have been with Mr. Mixologist. On both occasions, I made sure very tactfully, to let this person know that I was happily involved in a serious relationship, because he inquired about my status. I have his old number still in my phone, but this text came in from a different number. I missed the first few texts messages from him, because I was sleeping.
Here is the text exchange (check out the times of these messages). My responses are in bold. My commentary is in italics.
10:53 PM Hi Beautifully Complex
why do they always text in the middle of the night ?
7:01 AM Good Morning
10:38AM Got a new cell phone, whose number is this ?
10:39AM This is ______How are you ?
10:41AM Doing great. How about yourself ?
10:43 AM Same here, did you and Romeo get married ?
10:46AM We are engaged. He put a nice ring on it.
We are planning our wedding.
It's next year. How is your love life ?
10:50AM Was going well, I may be single again soon.
10:51AM Sorry to hear that.
10:53AM It happens
this is where it went wrong......
10:53 AM Are u still thick and sexy ?
10:58 AM Send me a pic
11:01 AM Yes No
11:13 AM You gonna ignore me ?
.....why state the obvious ?
damn, I guess he just doesn't get it. I guess I could have continued to ignore him, but I just really needed to get him off my phone.
12:03PM Asking about my body & asking me for a pic...
You pretend to want to be friendly,
but I won't jeopardize the trust
I have in my relationship by entertaining your text messages.
Peace & blessings to you.
Just when I though he had bowed out gracefully, 4 hours later.......
4:00PM F#%@ You !
4:10 PM Yeah I know you wish you could LOL Lose my number.
Don't EVER contact me from any number ever again.
I always try to treat you with respect you don't deserve.
Stay off my phone you disrespectful asshole !
Enjoy your miserable life.
4:15PM OK B$%#@ ! Enjoy his little D&%$ !
4:24PM Yeah, you wish it was little LOL. He wears a size 15 shoe.
Trust & believe I am more than satisfied with
the bat he is swinging, which is why I won't EVER let you
and your phone games jeopardize what I got going on.
You can call me all the names you wish.
I know who I am and yet it is YOU who always shows
back up on MY phone LOL.
You don't deserve the respect I've always tried to show you.
Stop texting me. Just imagine I am invisible to you.
4: 38PM Sorry for the name calling
4: 56PM Are we cool
4: 58PM Are we cool
WTH ? You text me all random, at late hours in the night, then again at the break of dawn ! You get inappropriate with me after I have confirmed that I am off the market & then when I check you on it, you want to cuss me out, call me out of my name and then try to insult my dude ! Really, what part of the game is this ???? I was heated !
You know guys love to talk about how thirsty the women are out here in these streets and I for one am getting tired of hearing it, because what guys don't talk about is how clingy & desperate acting they can be, and how they try to hate on the next man, just because a woman is not interested in playing games them ! I have never been the one to send pictures of myself to men on cell phones. EVER. I don't understand why people do this. This is how you end up embarrassed on the the damn internet !
I leave my email open, my cell phone unlocked and my FB open so that my love knows I have nothing to hide. We use each others laptops and cell phones all.the.time. I do my best to be an open book with him. The last thing I want is some damn confusion about some stray ass dude from 3 years ago typing inappropriate ish on my d@$& phone !
Thanks for entertaining my rant LOL
****steps off my soapbox and sits my ass down******
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?