What stresses you out ?
I don't like conflict. I don't like disagreements.Or better yet, I don't like it when folks have to let it be known that there is some sort of conflict. I like for people to get along. I am the peacemaker. I try to squash beef. I try to take the high road if I can. Don't get it twisted, I will state my opinion if need be. In fact I am pretty opinionated. I just respect other's rights to have an opinion as well & don't have a real issue when we don't agree. I respect other's rights to be themselves. I just don't think that every situation requires energy, especially negative energy. This type of ish totally stresses me out.
I remember having a party at my house where a group my friends who don't like one of my other good friends (personality conflict in my opinion). I was actually brought to tears by the situation that arose because of a comment that was made by my friend that the several friends didn't like (they already don't care for her). I hate the fact that I have to plan events worried that there will be an issue. At my next event, I had to make a choice of who to leave off the guest list. I hated that. I don't get it. After some time had passed though, I tried again. At my last event (our engagement party) all parties were present with no issue. It was cool, not even cordial ( they totally ignored her) which was fine by me. I can just do without the comments and the snark. LOL
What stresses you out ?
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
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Monday, May 28, 2012
Wednesday, May 16, 2012
Day 16 Body Image
Your opinion about your body and how comfortable you are with it.
Aaah Body image. Like they say over on FB.....its complicated. Currently I am about 30 pounds past fine & about 50 pounds past stopping trains ! LOL. We won't discuss specifics here, but I am pretty tall, 5 '10" and subsequently, I can carry weight. Especially in my thighs and my rear end. I want to lose some, but my actions as of late, don't support it. Like many others, I am an emotional eater. I had big plans to get on board after the first of the year but alas my mom getting sick, put me in a slight funk that led me to find comfort in food. For the last year I have also been trying to manage the uncertainty regarding my job situation which should be settled soon (hopefully). I simply have not been managing my stress the best way. That being said, there are no excuses here, just the facts. I should be doing things differently. I could definitely do better and I am not at my best because I am not putting in the effort through proper diet and exercise. It's no secret. There is not a magic pill. I am a former runner, so I truly know what it takes to lose and maintain my weight. I simply have not been doing it. Therefore complaining is a mute point. I am obviously not that uncomfortable with it or I would do something different right ? RIGHT. Well the truth is I am not content at this weight. It definitely affects me. My love has also added some lbs. since we have been together & this may be a good thing, because we both want to get some weight off prior to the wedding. Having an accountability partner will help. We both definitely want to look our best for the wedding and in the pictures that last forever LOL. I would not describe myself as comfortable with my body simply because I think of losing weight often. But I will admit that I have let other things take priority over me taking care of myself and I should not do that. In the long run for health reasons, it won't be pretty. My last physical which was just a few months ago was great. I am the picture of health. My doctor told me that all my numbers were fine. Good health is a blessing, but it can be taken from you if you don't treasure your body. I really do need to start acting like I know that.
Here are some pics from back when my opinion about by body was through the roof ! LOL
Getting ready for the Essence Festival.
Just completed a Half Marathon about an hour before this picture was taken.
At my best friends Birthday Party.
How comfortable are you with your body ? Anything you want to change ? Why ?
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
Aaah Body image. Like they say over on FB.....its complicated. Currently I am about 30 pounds past fine & about 50 pounds past stopping trains ! LOL. We won't discuss specifics here, but I am pretty tall, 5 '10" and subsequently, I can carry weight. Especially in my thighs and my rear end. I want to lose some, but my actions as of late, don't support it. Like many others, I am an emotional eater. I had big plans to get on board after the first of the year but alas my mom getting sick, put me in a slight funk that led me to find comfort in food. For the last year I have also been trying to manage the uncertainty regarding my job situation which should be settled soon (hopefully). I simply have not been managing my stress the best way. That being said, there are no excuses here, just the facts. I should be doing things differently. I could definitely do better and I am not at my best because I am not putting in the effort through proper diet and exercise. It's no secret. There is not a magic pill. I am a former runner, so I truly know what it takes to lose and maintain my weight. I simply have not been doing it. Therefore complaining is a mute point. I am obviously not that uncomfortable with it or I would do something different right ? RIGHT. Well the truth is I am not content at this weight. It definitely affects me. My love has also added some lbs. since we have been together & this may be a good thing, because we both want to get some weight off prior to the wedding. Having an accountability partner will help. We both definitely want to look our best for the wedding and in the pictures that last forever LOL. I would not describe myself as comfortable with my body simply because I think of losing weight often. But I will admit that I have let other things take priority over me taking care of myself and I should not do that. In the long run for health reasons, it won't be pretty. My last physical which was just a few months ago was great. I am the picture of health. My doctor told me that all my numbers were fine. Good health is a blessing, but it can be taken from you if you don't treasure your body. I really do need to start acting like I know that.
Here are some pics from back when my opinion about by body was through the roof ! LOL
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| Those were the days ! |
Getting ready for the Essence Festival.
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| When I was running like a beast - 13.1 miles later |
Just completed a Half Marathon about an hour before this picture was taken.
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| One of my favorite pictures of myself, I was so happy! |
At my best friends Birthday Party.
How comfortable are you with your body ? Anything you want to change ? Why ?
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
Thursday, November 17, 2011
Just Me........Randomly
I have lost my blogging mojo over the last few weeks it seems. I have really had a lot on my mind lately. I read a post by the Grady Doctor that gave me some much needed perspective on things. When I say it was right on time....... I need to keep reminding myself of certain things.
The husband of one of my Sorors was diagnosed with colon cancer last week after a colonoscopy. He is only 42. The same age as me. His surgery is coming up next week. I am praying for his healing.
Work is robbing my spirit lately. I shake it off for a few days, but it just comes back. I won't bore you with the details but I just need to get my mind right. If I left this world tomorrow, somebody would come right in and do what I do, probably for less money. I need to do a better job of managing stress.
My step-daughter is pregnant. She has known for several months. She knew back when we talked in August when my former MIL passed away. I guess it just wasn't the right time to tell me. She admitted to me that she was excited AND scared. She is going to have a little girl. It is amazing to me. She is almost 24 now. When I started dating my ex-husband, she was 2 and I was 20. I am feeling my age at the moment.
On a lighter note...............
I am sooooo ready for Thanksgiving next week. We are going to have a Karaoke Contest after dinner this year. We did the same thing before at our Mother's Day gathering so based on that alone, it should be very entertaining ! LOL Me, my sister & my cousin have been practicing our SWV songs by watching the videos on You Tube. My mom told me last week, her and my daddy are gonna sing some "Peaches & Herb" ......man I forgot about them. LOL I am ready for some laughs.
We are continuing our family tradition of running the Turkey Trot. There are 12 of us that are committed this year. We get up early Thanksgiving Day & head downtown for the race. I have been on the treadmill in preparation, but not as much as I should have been. Man I keep losing and gaining the same 8-10 lbs ! I know I have the heart to finish the race but I know for a fact that, I will be "trotting like a turkey"....literally ! LOL
One of my closest friends has managed to fall into a serious love affair in record time. She is giving me the credit because she encountered this man at a Homecoming Event that I insisted that she attend. Low and behold she got reacquainted with a guy she dated briefly in college that she hasn't seen in over 20 years despite living in the same city. There was no bad breakup or bad blood between them, it was never exclusive or anything. He is a now a widower with children that he has raised alone for 8 years, marriage minded and in church. I am over the moon with excitement for her ! They both seem very happy about finding one another.
I am going to try to let the holidays pull me out of this little funk I am in. When we come back from visiting my family for Thanksgiving, it will be time for Mr. Mixologist to help me pick out a Christmas tree again. I had my first real tree last year & I am looking forward to it again this year. Come on Spirit of Christmas.......I need you !
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
The husband of one of my Sorors was diagnosed with colon cancer last week after a colonoscopy. He is only 42. The same age as me. His surgery is coming up next week. I am praying for his healing.
Work is robbing my spirit lately. I shake it off for a few days, but it just comes back. I won't bore you with the details but I just need to get my mind right. If I left this world tomorrow, somebody would come right in and do what I do, probably for less money. I need to do a better job of managing stress.
My step-daughter is pregnant. She has known for several months. She knew back when we talked in August when my former MIL passed away. I guess it just wasn't the right time to tell me. She admitted to me that she was excited AND scared. She is going to have a little girl. It is amazing to me. She is almost 24 now. When I started dating my ex-husband, she was 2 and I was 20. I am feeling my age at the moment.
On a lighter note...............
I am sooooo ready for Thanksgiving next week. We are going to have a Karaoke Contest after dinner this year. We did the same thing before at our Mother's Day gathering so based on that alone, it should be very entertaining ! LOL Me, my sister & my cousin have been practicing our SWV songs by watching the videos on You Tube. My mom told me last week, her and my daddy are gonna sing some "Peaches & Herb" ......man I forgot about them. LOL I am ready for some laughs.
We are continuing our family tradition of running the Turkey Trot. There are 12 of us that are committed this year. We get up early Thanksgiving Day & head downtown for the race. I have been on the treadmill in preparation, but not as much as I should have been. Man I keep losing and gaining the same 8-10 lbs ! I know I have the heart to finish the race but I know for a fact that, I will be "trotting like a turkey"....literally ! LOL
One of my closest friends has managed to fall into a serious love affair in record time. She is giving me the credit because she encountered this man at a Homecoming Event that I insisted that she attend. Low and behold she got reacquainted with a guy she dated briefly in college that she hasn't seen in over 20 years despite living in the same city. There was no bad breakup or bad blood between them, it was never exclusive or anything. He is a now a widower with children that he has raised alone for 8 years, marriage minded and in church. I am over the moon with excitement for her ! They both seem very happy about finding one another.
I am going to try to let the holidays pull me out of this little funk I am in. When we come back from visiting my family for Thanksgiving, it will be time for Mr. Mixologist to help me pick out a Christmas tree again. I had my first real tree last year & I am looking forward to it again this year. Come on Spirit of Christmas.......I need you !
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
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