Last Friday I along with 3 other people conducted a three hour interview with an Informant. For obvious reasons I can't get into the specifics of the situation. However, this is a fairly common occurrence for me based on the work that I do as a Fraud Investigator for my employer. One of the things that is always interesting to me is establishing and examining the motives of the people that choose to willingly provide information about different types of fraud and illegal activity that goes on. The stories are always interesting and human nature is so consistent and predictable LOL. In last weeks scenario, the Informant has had knowledge of the fraud being committed for a significant amount of time.What prompted this person to come forward to spill the tea you ask ? Well of course it was a dispute over........what else?......MONEY. What was interesting to me is that the amount of money involved seemed pretty minor in my view. But I guess no amount of money is too little when you feel like someone has disrespected you. I am sure that if the person being poured out knew what not paying would ultimately cost them they would have just paid the debt.
On the other hand, why would you expect people who behave criminally, to have integrity and loyalty and to deal with you fairly and in good faith ? This seems like common sense to me but after interviewing countless ex-business partners, ex-husbands, ex-friends, ex-associates. ex-employees, it seems clear to me that the best way to not get caught committing fraud, is to stay on very good terms with any and everyone who is complicit in the scheme. I am sure this is hard to do sometimes but just know that more often that not, the person who pulls the string that makes it all unravel is someone who is close to you our used to be. As the saying goes.....there is no loyalty amongst thieves.
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
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Monday, August 13, 2012
Wednesday, July 25, 2012
Wise Words for your Wednesday
"Instead of wondering when your next vacation is, maybe you ought to set up a life you don't need to escape from." Seth Godin
Now that's a concept. I may not necessarily have my "dream job" and I know for sure that I am not "following my passion" as it pertains to my work, so this quote hits me square in the nose. I do however, make it a point to enjoy my life as much as possible, find fun as often as possible, never miss an opportunity to indulge in simple pleasures and keep a positive mindset. Everyday is a possibility for the unexpected to happen. There really is no excuse for not attempting to live your best life and follow your dreams. In my perfect world, I would be a songwriter/lyricist/producer and be paid well to do it. LOL ! I know I have the talent to write poetry and lyrics. I love music. So what is the problem ? Simply put, my own issues. Practicality. How I was raised. Being a first generation college graduate. Being the oldest grandchild. Pressure to set an example. Stability. You know the drill. But at this point I am old enough to make my own choices, follow my own dreams, take a leap of faith or just try. Hmmmmmm..........somethings to ponder on this wonderful Wednesday.
Are you living your best life ? What is your dream job ? What could you do everyday for free ?
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
Wednesday, May 30, 2012
Day 30 The Goodness of His Grace & Mercy
The Final Day Challenge: A picture of yourself this day and 5 good things that happened since you started this challenge.
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| On Mother's Day with my family |
- Remember this post from over a year ago ? Well, last week literally the day after I wrote this, I was informed that my job will NOT be relocated from Houston. I will have a new desk in Sugarland (a suburb) but I will remain in my same position, working in the field, doing what I enjoy doing. Praise God ! He hears our prayers.
- Me and Mr. Mixologist got to spend 4 days together mixing business and pleasure in New Orleans our favorite city and did some wedding planning and had some fun. Still no date just yet, but we got to see two actual weddings at venues we were considering and nailed down some decisions for our wedding and we agreed on most everything.LOL
- Over this past holiday weekend, I got a random FB wall post from my step-daughter that read, "Just thought I would let you know that Si'Maya is now 12 lbs, 15 oz and 23 in..... and she says she loves you". I have not seen her or the baby since the day she was born and this made my heart smile.
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| My pretty granddaughter |
- My beautiful 11 year old niece Savannah graduated from 5th grade. I can still remember the smell of her milk breath. LOL. Amazing just how fast time marches on.
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| Happy Graduate & her teacher |
- I learned that if I set my mind right. I can do anything I want to do. This is the first 30 day blog challenge that I have ever actually finished in 4 years of blogging *smh* I know crazy right ?
What good has happened in your life in the last 30 days ?
Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?
Beautifully Complex
Monday, May 2, 2011
Sun Shining..Rain Comes..Clouds Clear..Sun Returns
It's been a minute since I have been here and I have had my hands full dealing with LIFE. Not that it's anything that many others aren't also dealing with. As they say, "there is nothing new under the sun". Sometimes though, when things happen, you just have to be still and listen. That's what I have been doing while I was away. My company dropped the bomb a couple of weeks ago. They have their "corporate speak" and are calling this a "Migration" but we all know that it means downsize/layoff/reorganization since so many people aren't mobile to the city they are migrating us to for various reasons. I am truly not interested in relocating there either, as I have gotten settled into Houston, really like the city, and have managed to finally find love here. There is a good chance I will not have to move, due to the specific nature of what I do, but there is no guarantee as ALL departments are being looked at & possibly redesigned. If push comes to shove, I may have to go for a short time, but it will be with an exit strategy for sure to get to a city I really want to be in.
Honestly, I haven't been nearly as upset as the majority of my co-workers & I think that's because I already had my life turned upside down just a few years back & although it took me quite some time to recover, transition and land on my feet, I gained some perspective I never would have had without those life changing situations. If you are a new reader/lurker, it is pretty much summarized in a nutshell here. Even still, that does not make me immune to the feelings of my peers. People are having a HARD time with this. There have been many tears (openly), depression has set in and morale is horrible. The energy is just bringing me down, even though I feel confident that it will be okay. I really dread going into the office on the rare occasions that I have to, because it can be so draining. On my own, I am cool, but seeing others so hurt is hard. Barrista posted something on her blog today, which summed up the way I feel, but having her say it, made me feel all the more better:
This will be my 3rd time going through a layoff (2 mergers and a downsizing) and all have taken me to bigger and better things. I also know that every single thing works out in the end the way it’s supposed to and there’s nothing to be gained in stressing something you can’t change. Aight?
I can be honest an express that one of the things that I have been contemplating is how this situation may impact my relationship with Mr. Mixologist. This is still somewhat new. Oh, he has definitely gone out of his way to really assure me of his commitment to this relationship and has been very supportive, encouraging and open to the whole situation, which has been a great feeling. Honestly, I was enjoying the ride we have been on, coasting along at our own leisurely pace and this situation has just added unwanted pressure ( in my mind). I mean, I just want this relationship to evolve organically into what it is supposed to be. I have prayed about it and am doing my best not to over think it, and just know that it is going to be what it is going to be. Trust God and let it go.
In the midst of all of this work stuff, on the family side of things, my mom has been recently expressing some worry about my Dad's health, specifically she is having serious concerns that he is having problems remembering things, repeating himself in short time spans, and she is alarmed........ no, correct that, she is scared that this could be really something serious, and one of the most unsettling feelings is hearing the fear in your parent's voice. I feel so helpless being so far away. Me & Mr. Mixologist traveled to where my parents live a couple of weeks ago for my Aunt's 60th Birthday Party. I don't know if it's the power of suggestion or what , but my Dad does seem a little different to me. Just a bit more fragile than the last time I saw him & just not himself at all times. He has a doctor's appointment scheduled for this week and I just hope we can get to the bottom of it.
I had a Manager at work that used to say, "Nothing too good, or too bad, lasts for too long". One of my most favorite Pastor's used to say, " Either you are going through a storm, coming out of a storm or heading towards a storm. " An that just about summarizes life to me. None of us know what crosses we will have to bear in this life or for how long. There is no magical place that you get to, where everything is fine and it seems that if you ever get close to that point, you worry when it will end. I don't say any of this to sound negative & I really hope that it doesn't come across that way, I am just reflecting on things and trying to position myself to respond positively to each situation as it comes. I know that everything is going to work out for my good. That is why I always try to stand in the sun when it's shining on me because I know the clouds will come, but the truth is, they too always part, and the sun comes right back out again !
I count on the Sun to come back out, each and every day. I go to sleep each night and never worry that it's not coming up tomorrow. I don't even give it a second thought. It never crosses my mind, what if the sun doesn't come up tomorrow ? I lay down with the full confidence that He will make the sun rise tomorrow. I don't know how he does and couldn't begin to figure that out for myself, but I trust that it will be. Just as it is with the smaller things in this life. I will put my faith in Him and stand on his word.
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen". Hebrews 11:1
How do you handle life's challenges ? Is religious faith part of your life ?
Thoughts ? Questions ? Comments ?
Beautifully Complex
Honestly, I haven't been nearly as upset as the majority of my co-workers & I think that's because I already had my life turned upside down just a few years back & although it took me quite some time to recover, transition and land on my feet, I gained some perspective I never would have had without those life changing situations. If you are a new reader/lurker, it is pretty much summarized in a nutshell here. Even still, that does not make me immune to the feelings of my peers. People are having a HARD time with this. There have been many tears (openly), depression has set in and morale is horrible. The energy is just bringing me down, even though I feel confident that it will be okay. I really dread going into the office on the rare occasions that I have to, because it can be so draining. On my own, I am cool, but seeing others so hurt is hard. Barrista posted something on her blog today, which summed up the way I feel, but having her say it, made me feel all the more better:
This will be my 3rd time going through a layoff (2 mergers and a downsizing) and all have taken me to bigger and better things. I also know that every single thing works out in the end the way it’s supposed to and there’s nothing to be gained in stressing something you can’t change. Aight?
I can be honest an express that one of the things that I have been contemplating is how this situation may impact my relationship with Mr. Mixologist. This is still somewhat new. Oh, he has definitely gone out of his way to really assure me of his commitment to this relationship and has been very supportive, encouraging and open to the whole situation, which has been a great feeling. Honestly, I was enjoying the ride we have been on, coasting along at our own leisurely pace and this situation has just added unwanted pressure ( in my mind). I mean, I just want this relationship to evolve organically into what it is supposed to be. I have prayed about it and am doing my best not to over think it, and just know that it is going to be what it is going to be. Trust God and let it go.
In the midst of all of this work stuff, on the family side of things, my mom has been recently expressing some worry about my Dad's health, specifically she is having serious concerns that he is having problems remembering things, repeating himself in short time spans, and she is alarmed........ no, correct that, she is scared that this could be really something serious, and one of the most unsettling feelings is hearing the fear in your parent's voice. I feel so helpless being so far away. Me & Mr. Mixologist traveled to where my parents live a couple of weeks ago for my Aunt's 60th Birthday Party. I don't know if it's the power of suggestion or what , but my Dad does seem a little different to me. Just a bit more fragile than the last time I saw him & just not himself at all times. He has a doctor's appointment scheduled for this week and I just hope we can get to the bottom of it.
I had a Manager at work that used to say, "Nothing too good, or too bad, lasts for too long". One of my most favorite Pastor's used to say, " Either you are going through a storm, coming out of a storm or heading towards a storm. " An that just about summarizes life to me. None of us know what crosses we will have to bear in this life or for how long. There is no magical place that you get to, where everything is fine and it seems that if you ever get close to that point, you worry when it will end. I don't say any of this to sound negative & I really hope that it doesn't come across that way, I am just reflecting on things and trying to position myself to respond positively to each situation as it comes. I know that everything is going to work out for my good. That is why I always try to stand in the sun when it's shining on me because I know the clouds will come, but the truth is, they too always part, and the sun comes right back out again !
I count on the Sun to come back out, each and every day. I go to sleep each night and never worry that it's not coming up tomorrow. I don't even give it a second thought. It never crosses my mind, what if the sun doesn't come up tomorrow ? I lay down with the full confidence that He will make the sun rise tomorrow. I don't know how he does and couldn't begin to figure that out for myself, but I trust that it will be. Just as it is with the smaller things in this life. I will put my faith in Him and stand on his word.
"Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen". Hebrews 11:1
How do you handle life's challenges ? Is religious faith part of your life ?
Thoughts ? Questions ? Comments ?
Beautifully Complex
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