Just me.......Randomly

By the time you read this blog, I will be safely in New Orleans on a wedding planning trip with Mr. Mixologist. Please say a prayer that the tropical storm, or Hurricane, or what ever it may decided to turn into does NOT hit Louisiana from Thursday through Sunday !


That reminds me that I will be bringing the huge golf umbrella that my love bought for me,  as it is sure to rain while we are there. It really keeps me dry.  I don't spend a lot on umbrellas because I lose them all the time. I am super paranoid about losing this one because it was a gift & he spent too much money on it in my opinion.


I have a Hair Salon appointment and a Make up Consultation, with two ladies in New Orleans that I met via the Knot recommended by other brides. I really hope I like what they do, so I can check that off the list & move on to something else. We have now connected on Facebook & Pinterest to share ideas, isn't that convenient ? In fact several of my vendors are on those networks. Don't you just love the internet? It has made this wedding planning a whole lot easier from such a distance.


Why am I not ready for my mom, sister, nieces and bridesmaids to come to Houston in October ? Because I have lost a grand total of 4 lbs in preparation for trying on wedding dresses & I am subject to gain those all back this weekend eating Beignets among other things in New Orleans !!!!. LOL  Other than being my same fluffy self, I am very excited about their trip here & my nieces are too. They are so excited to see me try on wedding dresses. I miss them.


Actually I have exactly 8 weeks until they all come, which really is enough time for me to make some serious changes and see some results. That's if I make some changes. It's doable. I have to do more than just talk about it.  Please pray for me on that too. I need help. When I am stressed ( like I have been recently) I just don't do half of what  I know I should do. Either way the excuses need to cease.


Well, I guess technically this wasn't really random, since I have wedding planning on the brain. I am sure to have some pictures to share on the blog next week.

What's going on random with you ?

Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?

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Your Social Networking is Not Working !

I know a young person. I am going to be intentionally vague on how I am associated with this person because this blog is pretty much not anonymous. Anyhow, I follow this person on some social networking sites, but my primary focus in this rant is about Facebook. This person is a teenager and that fact may excuse some of the behavior I have observed in some people's eyes possibly. I guess I am officially old now,  because some of the things I see and read on this persons FB page  have made me blush. I am not a prude. I don't always think or say the right thing. Trust & believe that I listen to hood/ratchet/ghetto anthem type music with the best of them. But it's all about time and place. For example,  I know people write things on Twitter they would never put on Facebook. It amazes me that some people don't consider their audience. This young person has been warned in the past on several occasions. Several other adults noted some of the very inappropriate posts and it was brought to the attention of the only involved parent. We also approached the young person directly, expressed our concerns, explained consequences, appropriate behavior, etc.  The result: several of us discovered that we had been blocked from being able to see their wall posts anymore.  It then took quite a while before I was reinstated with full access to their page. But, in no time at all the inappropriate comments were back in effect. Posting sexually explicit song lyrics, cursing, threatening back & forth with other immature teenagers, talking/bragging  about what they did last night leaving nothing to the imagination. Just totally inappropriate and TMI. It just like they don't care that any and everyone can see this nonsense.  I have just given up. I can't believe how unconcerned some young people are about how they are perceived. As a teenager growing into a young lady, I was very concerned about what my teachers, church members, aunts, uncles, and especially my parents thought of me. If I had had a platform like FB back then, there is no way I would show my A$& the way I have seen this person do. Even now, if you follow me on social networks you can probably surmise that  A) I like to socialize and  B) I like to drink wine and cocktails and C) I move around the city a lot. However, what you won't see is whether or not I got intoxicated, or am hung over the next day , or got into some drunken verbal altercation, etc.  You can make assumptions but you will not have any evidence of unflattering behavior coming from me on a damn social network.   Not long ago, I mentioned to another person in the same circle with this young person, that they were at it again & basically he told me "What more can you do ? Didn't we already address this ? This child should not even have the privilege of FB.  If acceptable behavior is not being reinforced by the parent, how much impact are you going to have in the situation when you are not there supervising the kid every day ?" 


Damn. You know what. He is right. I hate giving up on people especially young people. But I am beyond frustrated. Mr. Mixologist told me that I need to just block the posts from coming to my news feed since they upset me so. I guess I was just hoping to see a change & just because I don't see it doesn't mean its not happening. It just bothers me.

Do you following any young people on social networks ?

Do you think that people are unconcerned with their online persona ?

What more can I do help this young person understand ?

30 Blogs in 30 Days

There is some blog challenge going around the internet, a writer Aliya S King has challenged writers/bloggers to write 30 posts in 30 days so I am going to do my best to step up to the plate. Since this month has 31 days and this is just day two of the month I will start today & try to finish out the rest of the month.

What's on my mind right now..........How I wish I had more hours in the day to do what I want to do instead of what I have to do. How I wish I was independently wealthy or at least had my mortgage paid off so that I could work when I want to LOL. How I wish that I could financially bless people in my life that I see who are living in a way that makes me proud. How I wish I had more time for social networking, even when I spend what already amounts to ridiculous amounts of time on it anyway. I love Pin.terest, Face.book, Inst.agram, Twitter, Yelp and of course reading my favorite blogs & writing on my own blog. Not to mention The K.not which is quite the resource with all of this wedding planning as well as the numerous blogs I read by brides planning weddings. There are just not enough hours in the day ! Plus I have all these magazines that come in the mail that stack up & I feel guilty if I try to throw them away cause I don't have time to read them. I am addicted to the written word ! I wish I had more time. There is so much to see, learn, do, watch and experience. I want to live a life of leisure ! LOL But honestly, I am so very blessed that I have the type of life that gives me the opportunities that I do have. I don't work as "hard" as many people and I earn a "comfortable" income for what I do everyday. TiffanyinHouston wrote a post today about struggling that really made me think. I can honestly say that being raised by a single mom until I was 12, we did struggle. My biological father was not present and provided no financial support at all. I had two alcoholic grandparents so my mother's support system was not that great. I do have memories of having to eat beans towards the end of the month, having no furniture in our apartment for quite a while, our electricity getting turned off a few times, and my mom having to ask friends for gas money so that she could get to work. But my childhood was very happy and those situations were temporary. I was never trapped in poverty. My mother has always been a hard worker and very determined. She was a very involved and active parent and we always had fun with her. She taught me so much about faith and perseverance. My mom got married and she continued working hard to carve out a great life for me & my sister that led us to great educational opportunities which led to me having  what I consider a very good life today. Yes, I have had disappointments in my life, divorce, daddy issues, infertility, financial setbacks, but honestly the things that I deal with are considered "first world problems" and I would not want to gamble and throw my life back into the water and take chance of pulling out something much more challenging. So tonight as I sit on my leather sofa, in my air conditioned home that I own, sipping a glass of vino, surfing the internet while my fiance is outside grilling our dinner, I think I am doing just fine.

What's on your mind ?  Are you up to the challenge to blog for 30 days straight ?

Thoughts ? Comments ? Questions ?

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